Conflicting Lies: Here Are The Problems With The Blog Post A CEO Who Hit A Woman 117 Times Just Published

Just as I was finishing up my previous piece, I saw on Twitter that RadiumOne CEO Gurbaskh Chahal just posted something on his personal blog to defend himself from the accusations. It is, however, when examined at a deeper level, filled with inaccuracies and in many cases, downright lies. I’ve annotated Chahal’s entire post to point out the inconsistencies and inaccuracies.

Can You Handle the Truth?

Sure… if it’s you know, actually the truth.

The truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.

Yeah. Except your forgot to add something here: it’s your version of “the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.” The version of someone who is abusive towards woman without any regard for their physical wellbeing.

Right now there are many people calling for my head. I am the recipient of death threats and hateful language aimed not just at what I was accused of, but attacking me for my ethnicity, my social class, and even my gender. Many would gladly lynch me based because of my origin — and not the facts of my case.

I don’t know if you’re drunk when you wrote this or not… but no one is actually calling for your head because you’re Indian (well maybe a few), but I can assure you that those people are the exceptions rather than the rule. People are calling for your head because of one, and only one straightforward reason: you hit a girl 117 times in the span of half hour. Then you most probably bought her silence afterwards to save your own ass from being thrown in prison. To think that the reason why you’re being hated upon is because you’re Indian is delusional, and quite frankly, an excuse for you to feel better about what you did.

I know that I cannot change the minds of those who choose to hate me without cause — and base their hate only on the misrepresentations they have read, but I hope that others will be open minded and give me the opportunity to tell my story and paint a broader and very different picture.

Most logical people aren’t hating you “without cause”. Which part of the “you hit a girl 117 times” do you not (or refuse) to understand as the reason why people are having this reaction over what you did?

Before I begin, I want to make it abundantly clear that I abhor violence of any kind, most especially against women. I created a foundation to fight hate crimes. I consider intimate partner violence and domestic violence in that same category.

This says nothing about your character – the foundation you created (although should be applauded), may have been created for a number of reasons you and I both know may be true, especially in the Silicon Valley culture: PR value, as an excuse whenever people bring up the fact that you’re rich, or to ease your cognitive dissonance after hitting a girl 117 times. Although you did take the first step, after hearing what happened, I’m not sure why you created the foundation.

I was charged with 45 felony counts of domestic violence. All of those charges were dropped, and ultimately the case settled when the DA’s office recognized they had no case and offered me a misdemeanor plea. I accepted that plea, because after a lot of soul searching I believed I was acting in the best interest of my company, my employees, my customers, my family, my friends and my investors.

No. You accepted the plea because your company (which you’ve been fired from now) is about to IPO. Let’s not kid ourselves here.

I fully understand the outrage of those who believe I got off “lightly” as asserted by numerous postings on social media sites. But the $500 fine I agreed to pay, the equivalent of a speeding ticket, is simply what those misdemeanors require, and in no way reflects the toll that this ordeal has exacted on me. There can be no dollar value placed on the pain and suffering I have caused my family and friends, my employees and customers my investors, and everyone else who has looked up to me in the past. The humiliation and shame I feel is immeasurable. The dollar cost to my business and my reputation is incalculable.

Well, here’s a bucket of sympathy for you – we’re all sorry that you have to endure the painful consequences because you did what you did.

I could have spent another year fighting the charges against me, which I truly wanted to do for my family’s sake. I would have prevailed in this fight because the allegations by police against me were overblown and grossly exaggerated. They made good press, but quite literally, they did not hold up in court.

Yeah you might’ve wanted to do that for your “family’s sake”, but your board of directors, PR people or lawyers wouldn’t have allowed you to. “They did not hold up in court.” – this is true. But not because you didn’t hit a girl 117 times. It’s because of the technicalities of the law. And you know that.

I want you to know that this is not an excuse. I know that intimate partner violence is never excusable under any circumstances. I recognize that my temper got the better of me, and I will regret that for the rest of my life. But there is a difference between temper and domestic violence, and the truth of what actually happened is no where close to what the police claimed nor anywhere near what the online chatter and pundits are now making it out to be. I have two sisters, a niece and a mother. I love them all to death, and would never want any harm to ever come their way.

“I recognize that my temper got the better of me, and I will regret that for the rest of my life.” – So you’re admitting that you hit a woman, and you’re going to use your anger to justify it. Okay.

” difference between temper and domestic violence” – No, there isn’t. Violence is still violence. Maybe if you hit her once, it might have fallen into your so-called “temper violence” category. But you hit her 117 times. By then, you must’ve been fully aware of what you’re doing.

“I have two sisters, a niece and a mother. I love them all to death, and would never want any harm to ever come their way.” – Yeah, yeah… I wonder who you’re trying to appeal with all this pathos. There are psychopathic murderers who loved their sisters, nieces and mothers too, by the way.

The situation that resulted in my legal case began when I discovered that my girlfriend was having unprotected sex for money with other people. (She testified to this in her interviews with the cops.) I make no excuse for losing my temper. When I discovered this fact and confronted my girlfriend, we had a normal argument. She called 9-11 after I told her I was going to contact her father regarding her activities. And yes, I lost my temper. I understand, accept full responsibility and sincerely apologize from the bottom of my heart for that. But I didn’t hit her 117 times, injure her, or cause any trauma as the UCSF medical reports clearly document. This was all overblown drama because it generates huge volumes of page views for the media given what I have accomplished in the valley.

“I discovered that my girlfriend was having unprotected sex for money with other people.” – So you’re basically saying that it’s okay to hit a whore (if that). Well, it’s not. And if you actually cared about her, you would’ve used words like “unfaithful” instead of describing her sex life like that. Or you know, just don’t mention it at all.

“But I didn’t hit her 117 times” – 1) But you also didn’t mention how many times you hit her – it could be 114, 115, or 116. All you said was “not 117“. So you could’ve hit her for however many times – as long as the number isn’t 117. Who knows, there’s a chance you might’ve hit her more  than 117 times. 2) You still hit her.

“given what I have accomplished in the valley” – Totally necessary.

The tape in question that was thrown was also bullshit. If anything, it actually made the SFPD look bad because they violently assaulted me as I opened my door despite my being fully cooperative.

If the tape made the SFPD look bad, then why are you so adamant (spending lots of money and effort) on keeping it out of the public’s eyes? Something quite obviously doesn’t add up here.

The girl in question here, was herself so appalled by the false allegations made by the police, that she agreed to be photographed to demonstrate that there were no bruises or injuries. She could have left my apartment at any time during the argument. She felt safe and chose to stay. Those pictures she agreed to take would have been entered into evidence had my case proceeded, and they would have proven that the police claims were egregiously misleading.

Even if there were no bruises or injuries (which I doubt), you still hit her. And most probably not just once or twice, but enough for the prosecution to think that they have an air-tight conviction against you, before the judge ruled the recording to be inadmissible.

Celebrities in sports, entertainment and business, and high net worth individuals in general are all potential targets. It was only a matter of time when I would fall prey.

This is a really weird line… is there a point you’re trying to make?

I have to accept that many will still want to hate me no matter what I say to bring clarity to my legal case which is now over. But the fact of the matter is that they are jumping to conclusions based on falsified allegations. My case could not have settled in the way that it did if the allegations were true. Trust me, the DA’s were like a pack of rabid dogs coming after me. If they had a case, they would have stuck with it.

You don’t seem to understand that the DA’s case fell apart because the recording was inadmissible as an evidence… not because you didn’t do what you did.

I only hope for two things: first that people who I work so hard to inspire are not discouraged by the false allegations and blogosphere spins, and, secondly, I hope others who are not in my shoes — and who have jumped on the bandwagon of criticism against me after the conclusion of my legal proceedings — will be open minded and give me the opportunity to tell them the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.

Stretching the definition of the word “truth” there.

I apologize to my family, my friends, employees, my customers and my investors all who have suffered from this bad publicity related to my personal matter. I have learned a lot from this experience, and I will continue to grow. As CEO of RadiumOne, I vow to make it a hugely successful company, a great place to work, and a wonderful partner in the community.

Thankfully, you’re no longer the CEO of RadiumOne. But more importantly, it’s great knowing that the female employees at RadiumOne can now come to work with a peace of mind, without the threat of working under someone might abuse them.

I’ve always wanted the best for others. I have been a tireless fighter against hate crimes through my Foundation, and a huge supporter of education through my scholarship funds. What I am proudest of in my success thus far in life is that I have created jobs and opportunities for people, while building commerce and strengthening our community. Actions speak louder than words, and it is these actions, not the false allegations and spins that you might have read through these various blogs shine light on my real character, on the person I truly am and always want to be.

Nothing in this paragraph vindicates the fact that you hit a girl that many times.

What is the American Dream? That you can come from nothing and make something of yourself not once, not twice but three times, only to have all of it come crashing down from misinformation, that is spun wildly out of control into the world of make believe and then goes viral into the blogosphere. We need to hold on to the American Dream, and reject those who would rather make it a nightmare.

I’m sorry that we, the media, is ruining your American Dream – but I also don’t remember recalling the fact that the American Dream should protect those who belong in jail. “Misinformation”, you say? Well, where there’s smoke, isn’t there – however tiny or large – fire?

Our Founding Fathers believed in the dream, why not the bloggers.

I still can’t believe an actual human being wrote this.

Little did you know, this blog post also served as your resignation letter. Justly so.